Writer’s Life: Trust within the writing community

Trust is everything within the writer’s community and hopefully all of us can continue to grow together.

Being a writer has many functions and special elements. It includes having faith in your own abilities, staying true to your story, and trust within the writer’s community. Without trust, there isn’t anything to build on within all our special networks.

The special thing with writers is that no writer should have to endure any storm alone. There are groups all over social media whether it is Facebook or the large writer’s community on Twitter. It’s not a competition (or shouldn’t be) and most of all there’s room for all of us.

The whole writer’s community should be the envy of the entire world. It’s a supportive place where everyone gets along and just wants to see everyone succeed. That is rare and something that keeps the writer’s community together.

The issue with any group or family is that sometimes there are people who may not be honest. They may try to take advantage of the generosity and support of other writers. Every group has it and hopefully, there aren’t many within the writer’s community.

The worse part about it is that when there is a reason to not have trust, things fall apart. My hope is that the writer’s community never falls apart because of those who may not have others best interests in mind. If there are those who only have themselves in mind with a lack of transparency, my hope is that other members of the writing community will watch out for each other.

It will continue to grow every single day and I hope it continues to grow with a mutual interest of completing work and supporting each other as the work pours in with new content of all genres and styles.

This network is something special on Twitter and something that has helped us grow as writers, entrepreneurs, and in some cases, it has helped us excel in other respective professions. There are no limits to what could possibly happen with us next on our journeys.

Some of us have very little support and others of us have no support at all. The writer’s community is the cream of the crop in terms of a support system. That’s why preserving it and not losing faith in it is critical.

If you need someone, the community is always only just a tweet away #WritersCommunity or #Writingcommunity.  I am always just a tweet or direct message away @Wrlter4LifeJC for any writers or artists. Let’s all be there to support and be good to each other with our individual circumstances and watch each other thrive.

A Writer’s Life: Joining a team

A writer that has generally been on his own joining a team is an adjustment and a new adventure that forced much needed changes when it comes to being on a team.

This week has been eventful filled with a lot of self-discovery when it comes to writing. Those who have been following my journey via Twitter know that I do script writing, blogging, and contribute to a team called Undead Walking. The transition was the hardest thing I have ever went through. I believe the self-discovery has prepared me for the future and helped me grow as a writer.

Since it isn’t a script or a blog on this website, I had to learn that it is a whole different ballgame and I had to learn the rules fast, or my time would have been more difficult. Learning that took me a few months because as a writer, I didn’t trust anyone else’s instincts but my own.

We have heard it repeatedly, there is no “I” in the word team. I know some of you probably rolled your eyes just now or said a sarcastic remark. Well here is a new one for you, there is an “I” in time, so if you want to save time, you must adhere to the rules of being on a team.

I considered parting ways with Undead Walking after season 9 of The Walking Dead was over. It was a hard road, and I wanted to invest my time into my own projects. When the final episode was over, I felt that the three-month journey was coming to an end.

I figured that I would be back as a lone wolf working on projects as I graduate from college and things would go back to the way it was before. Deep down I didn’t want it to end since I enjoyed writing the pieces as a contributor. While talking with both editors, it was an all-in effort to make it work with Undead Walking.

The problems I have had the whole time were finally being addressed. I didn’t let my guard down and didn’t trust anyone but myself. A big part of that was the few times I have been on a team and got burned in the process, so I kept my guard up with this team and didn’t trust anyone.

After the release of the article, it was a success and I decided to continue to be part of the team on a part-time basis. Why is that important you may ask? Writers like myself been on our own for years and we have grown used to doing it our way. Our way may work for some things, but it won’t work for all things.

If you have a chance to contribute to a team, Undead Walking, Bleacher Report, or any website that calls for it, I highly suggest it. It will not only change your thinking but add more to an individual as a writer with personal growth. Any writer is one of us, and that trust can help us build even more bridges with fellow writers in the future.

A Writer’s journey: True friends & writing community

The journey before joining the writing community on Twitter helped shape me to who I am today, the good friends and the not so good. Here is my story as a writer.

Before joining Twitter a few years back, I was primarily writing whatever was on my mind and only sharing it with a few people. I decided that I wanted to expand and reach people, and another writer who I knew for many years was saying the same thing. I thought this person felt the same way, but it turned out to be a dark period while trying to just gain the confidence to go above and beyond.

While talking to this person, I told him that we should really try Twitter. At the time, we both didn’t even know where to begin. He released a book and I was writing blogs for my first platform and wanted to get serious about screenwriting. I was mentally preparing myself to go on Twitter, since I also wanted to follow wrestlers, Walking Dead, actors, and other writers too.

The platform I was writing for didn’t work out. I was still determined to keep going and find other ways to write. I made the mistake of underestimating the stress with personal things, Shayla Hyde kept in contact with me, Barbi Hayden never hesitated to give a positive message even with her busy schedule, Brittany and Kikyo gave tough love when I didn’t want to do it anymore, and Nyla always gave genuine love and care. It made it easier to go through with Twitter and taking it day by day, and I felt great.

My Twitter profile was made, and I was ready for whatever was next. He left a message saying that it’s a “waste of time” and he “won’t do it”. I was not so angry that he pulled out, but angrier that it’s a writer telling another writer that something is a “waste of time”. It’s annoying to hear it from non-writers, but it’s worse hearing it from a fellow writer. It made it harder and I felt alone in it as I went through with it.

My friends Shayla, Kikyo, Brittany, Barbi, and Nyla all continued to be there to remind me that I wasn’t alone with the process. The stress and getting knocked a few steps back after taking three steps forward were the hardest. It was a process with the reoccurring personal hurdles as well as challenges presented by what that writer said to me. It was hanging over my head like a dark cloud.

Time went by, and eventually with love and support from them and discovering the writing community made all the difference in the world. From writing on my own website to becoming a finalist for the Hollywood Screenplay contest. I have done things that I have never imagined possible.

The support of the writing community on Twitter is best described as a never-ending energy field by other hardworking writers. Whether I am working on my scripts or sharing stories with the writing community like right now. I have been able to share stories and thoughts about writing. No matter what, no one can face the journey alone, because the writing field can be a long dark lonely road.

The people who support you become so much more than just friends. Brittany, Nyla, Shayla, Kikyo, and Barbi all became family. When I say family, I mean through the best times, and worse times they are there. So many times, people will only want to be around someone when they are winning, but the moment they lose even a little, the support disappears. The people who become family don’t care about it, they just want your happiness and to see you succeed.

Having the writing community helps, but the journey before finding the writing community is just as important. To never forget the struggles, your true friends, and finding yourself as a writer. At first, I wanted to just forget about the past, but now I don’t ever want to forget. The writing community is the energy that gives you more strength and positivity to build on.

Thinking about it keeps you hungry and while it may not be healthy to dwell on it. It is good to think about it occasionally to light a fire inside of you to power through your work. It can also be the worse thing to happen when overthinking it, and best to take a step back to take care of yourself when thinking about it becomes overwhelming.

If you haven’t joined Twitter or haven’t joined the writing community, take the chance and do it. Get to know people and build with the never-ending energy that shines with the writing community. It will be a great topper for the support you already have or give you that needed a boost to succeed.

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A writer’s life: What is normal?

So many times, we are told what is acceptable when it comes to being a writer….I say ENOUGH!

Since the beginning of the year, I have personally struggled with the idea of being involved in writing in so many ways. I write blogs, scripts, articles, and an interest in authorship eventually. It was primarily because of an institution giving an idea that writing so many genres and many areas of writing are “too much” or “not normal”. That’s the primary pressure point that made the beginning of 2019 not as pleasant as I have hoped.

The struggle internally as a writer is hard enough, but when you add institution or other people, it can make it unbearable. Every writer is different and that’s what makes our craft and community so interesting. Who is to say that a screenwriter should only be a screenwriter? Who is to say an author can’t become a poet too? Who is to say a writer can’t take on three or more categories? The ones who have made those statements do not help causes.

Why would anyone be limited to a few categories? Writing is such a big art that it is hard for a writer with such passion to contain themselves to one category. It is a beautiful thing when an author crosses over into blogging and screenwriting. That means they have a story they want to share, and they are using their love for writing in general to explore other ways to convey the message.

The toxic mindset of “limits” or “normal” is something that should always be challenged. What is normal? Why do we have to limit ourselves to a set of rules to please certain people or institutions? Why should we limit ourselves when we know there are unlimited possibilities?

There are some writers who may crossover and some writers who stick within only one. Every single writer who has the true love and passion has this in common, there are no limits. We should be able to crossover to multiple genres and write a wide range of pieces in different subfields without being self-cautious about it.

The hope I have in the future is that writers can just write how much they want when they want, and what they want without negative feeling. If you have that dream of being an author, or a screenwriter, blogger or anything, I say go for it. Keep doing what makes you happy and keep rising above the institutional ridicule.

My Best Friends are Wrestlers

As a writer, I found encouragement from very few people, but one source that was unlikely that changed my whole world was becoming friends with wrestlers.

As a wrestling fan, I always had dreams of befriending wrestlers when I was a kid. For me, it was wanting to be The Rock’s friend and hanging out with Kurt Angle. It’s normal to have those dreams of befriending wrestlers, but little did I know, it would soon become reality. A few short years ago, I began writing primarily about wrestlers, while I continued to write scripts. The ones I am closest to have been my closest friends through the process of the college.

My tendency to also get along with women more than I do men made me expand to write about women’s wrestling and the women’s revolution. Coming from a household where my own mother is a strong career-oriented woman and equal to my father who is career oriented helped shape my views of equality. My dad was never threatened by the fact my mom became more successful, in fact, he embraces it and encourages her to go for more.

Very little people know that fact about me, but that is why I tend to get along with women more than guys because I have seen within the women’s revolution (and corporate America) some of the worse from the men. That also led to the best friendships I ever had with strong women wrestlers.

A time when people who are not wrestlers tend to be “too busy” or “just don’t care” can become a lonely road when trying to accomplish dreams and goals in life. The thing that absolutely tickles me the most is the fact that wrestlers who have a long travel schedule and hectic life because of the schedule have been there more. The wrestlers have been there the most through it all.

These wrestlers are still going strong in the independent circuit. I have even seen a few achieve their dreams. They in return have encouraged me to go the extra mile in everything. I have never had that before, and I even had people who attempt to downplay what I do as “common” or “not worth it”. They have tried many times to keep me at an unhappy level. All the wrestlers I encountered wanted more for people they interact with.  In turn, I want to see them go above and beyond with everything with their hopes and dreams too.

I never thought in this lifetime I would ever be friends with wrestlers. I thought it would just be something I would think about and maybe meet a few, like the time I met Ted DiBiase Jr, Cody Rhodes and Beth Phoenix in Applebee’s after a WWE show. It became reality, and to be honest, I am grateful for it.

All the years and beyond from 2013 to now have been me taking a path that so many would discourage, but they have always been there. Whether it is my best friend Shayla Hyde, Brittany Wonder, Fallen Flower Kikyo, or Barbi Hayden. There have been some new friends to come along as well and truthfully and honestly that is what it is all about.

In the ring, they dominate and go to newer heights than ever before. When they aren’t in the ring, they are still helping others propel themselves to a new level in hopes that others will achieve the next level just like they are in pursuit of as well. That is what it is all about at the end of the day, achieving and wanting to see others achieve as well.